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We're Working on Loving Ourselves, All Summer '17 #MayMotivation

We're Working on Loving Ourselves, All Summer '17 #MayMotivation

Danie Altidor

written by Relationship Coach Dani Spikes:

For the month of May join me, Relationship Coach Dani Spikes, as she gives you monthly daily bursts of inspirational excerpts from her self-coaching workbook, "It's Time! 21 Days to the Best Relationship with Yourself." Everyday on her IG, @iamdanispikes, she will be sharing short clips from her workbook. This is an oppurtunity to actually see what it's like to work on yourself with someone, who is trained (no shade), to do so. Someone that will help you ask yourself those tough questions to finally dig deep and get the results you have been looking for. Are you excited? Do you have your workbook? Let's Get into it. 

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4 Times It's Absolutely Fine to be Selfish In Your Relationship

4 Times It's Absolutely Fine to be Selfish In Your Relationship

Danie Altidor
"Being in love means more than butterflies, it means being willing to do the work for your relationship."

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Selfish In Your relationship
4 Times It's Absolutely Fine to be Selfish In Your Relationship

4 Times It's Absolutely Fine to be Selfish In Your Relationship

Danie Altidor
"Being in love means more than butterflies, it means being willing to do the work for your relationship."

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Selfish In Your relationship
Intimacy Doesn't Equal Sex and How To Do It Right By Dani Spikes

Intimacy Doesn't Equal Sex and How To Do It Right By Dani Spikes

Danie Altidor
    As a Relationship Coach, I often sit across my desk from couples that are at odds. One wants to feel more connected, wants to feel more in tune with their partner. The other has a deer in the headlights look. The second party in question has no idea what is going on, how they got to my office, or whose paying for the bill.
There's obviously a disconnect in this couple and believe it or not, it happens more often than not. Sometimes, along the way we can get disconnected from our partner on what intimacy is or what it means. Although sex is a form of intimacy, it isn't the only form of intimacy. There are so many ways to connect with your partner that can bring the both of you together in a more connected an intimate way. 
Here are three simple ways to switch up the intimacy in your relationship and how to connect with your partner. 
1. Ask how are you doing? Then listen! In a digital time and space, we are on our phones more than we ever have. SImple questions like how are you, how are you doing and how are you feeling are simple ways to check in with your partner and create a deeper connection with them. It reminds them how you feel about them and what they mean to you. Here's the MOST IMPORTANT PART, LISTEN!!!! Listen to what they are saying. Put your cellular phone on silent, make sure there is nothing pressing to do. Clear your space and ensure your partner knows that their well being, both emotionally and physically is important to you.
2.Be Honest About Feeling Disconnected.  Open a line of communication about how you are honestly feeling at the moment in your relationship. By allowing your partner to peek into how you are feeling can help both of you feel more connected and will allow both of you to open up in other ways. (Do with that last statement what you will.)
3.Stare into each other eyes. Sounds lame? I don't care. I start every Spiked Brunch with the same exercise and it helps couples come together and set the intention for the brunch. Take as long as you need, I recommend playing a meaningful song to the both of you to measure time. Use this exercise as a reset button for your relationship whenever you feel the both of you drifting away from each other emotionally.
Have additional questions about intimacy? Need more advice on how to re-connect with your partner? Email me at hello@iamdanispikes.com 

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